I Will Not Bow

I think this post will be more of a rant than anything, with a positive spin at the end.

Well, things have been insane in our lives. I have friends who are moving on with things in their lives, months before I thought things in the friendships would change. W and I are going through a lot, experiencing a lot, things are changing for us (and fast), as well as the stress of a multitude of things. That being said, finding good friends seems to be tough, finding good friends that want to stay your friends and support you through everything, is even harder.

A few of my friends have ventured on to a part in their lives, that we've been trying to venture on to for the last 1.5 years, and we aren't getting anywhere. Once they hit this adventure, I'm no one. I'm a friend the come to simply to brag about the adventure. When talking to someone who's been on this journey for 1.5 years, in which you know what their struggles have been, what they've gone through, the disappointment they felt and still feel, you need to be sensitive, and understanding that they may not want to talk solely about your adventure, and the one they have yet to achieve.

Friends who are like this, who can't stop talking about it, are left without friends, and those who are still working on the adventure, are left with no one, no support system, no encouragement, no one, we are simply left behind. What you don't realize is that you're hurting us, you're hurting our feelings, you're discouraging us (despite probably thinking you're encouraging us), but what hurts the most is that you can't stop talking about it enough to realize that we don't want to hear it, and that you're making it so we don't want to talk to you. We don't want to confront you about it, tell you that we don't want to talk to you, or that you're stepping on boundaries or hurting our feelings, because well, you just got great news. Please take all of this into consideration before you talk to me about your adventure.

On a plus side, we have officially closed the deal on our house. We will be moving on June 27th, a little later than we expected and hoped for, but moving nonetheless. We are beyond excited and we hope that everything else in our life just falls into place. Exciting stuff for us, but hopefully a few other exciting things will pop up and fulfill our lives.